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You need to know how to meet your medical and/or mental health needs NOW. You're struggling to survive moment by moment. And you need your dignity.

You're rushing to appointments (the ones you remembered) and/or wondering which treatment to use. Meanwhile, your costs are rising, your needs are changing and you hardly know how to make sense of what to do first, second and later. What about the emotions boiling inside you? How can you calm down with all that's going on?

A former medical coder and medical writer, I've been in your position. I survived a life-threatening emergency with information only a person with my professional experience would know: How to find medical innovators, medical experts and charitable organizations willing to pay part or all of an applicant's specific medical costs, who has software to simplify medical appointment scheduling, a sensible list of items to pack for hospital stays, and more.

I knew that I'd pulled through because of my ability to connect with resources I needed. I knew that most patients lack that knowledge. I decided to provide it, to minimize your suffering.

I believe in empowering terrified, confused and unhappy people with dire diagnoses. I believe that patients should not suffer insults to their dignity in medical settings. I provide information that can help you to manage your problems better, maybe to end them, in the book.

Calm down. Organize your life better. You just might get your grin back.

Thursday, March 26, 2015

Physics, Fun and Fighting Off Negativity


6 Nisan, 5775

I've been rather bummed out today, as you can tell from my recent Facebook message

I want a break from cyberlife cuz I keep learning of downright nasty stuff in the news. So, I'll sign off for a bit with the most moving Star Trek episode I can remember. May it promote decency worldwide. Grab the tissues, hug the dog, the kids, your spouse, and grab some more tissues. Everybody's gonna need them. Star Trek: The Next Generation; Season 3, Episode 16: "The Offspring"…/x264n2d_star-trek-the-next-gen…
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  • Yocheved Golani BTW Israelis, we'll have an hour less to wipe our tears as of tonight. We move to that goshdarnit Daylight Savings Time at 2AM, making it 3AM. So when you fall out of bed Friday morning, you'll be justifiably sleepy, having lost an hour there. Nap today and brace for impact.

So now that you've grown to be a better person for watching that long video, let's share fast-paced Get Ready for Pesakh fun with students of Israel's Technion Institute. Who says physics can't be fun?

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Wednesday, March 25, 2015

Be the Type of Person You Want to Meet


5 Nisan, 5775

Ever wish somebody had treated you far better than they did?

Ever felt deeply sorry that you failed to live up to your niceness potential?

I have a solution aka new mantra for you:

Be the type of person you want to meet.

News reports are full of headlines about people misbehaving in very strange ways, and mostly from severely emotional reactions to this or that. NOT a good sign for the future.

Let's deal with that, and with your life, by realizing that you can choose your response to stress. Yes, your initial impulse can be wildly not nice, but you need not behave that way. Your heart and mind can work together; You can choose to behave in a cultured, pleasant fashion. And you can do so, too.

Emotions are not slave masters. 
Be the type of person you want to meet. 

PS - It's fun not to drive yourself nutz. 
Give self discipline despite HOT ANGER
a go.
And yes, it's gonna take practice 
until you do things nicely 
even when you're peeved.

And for those of you angry with GOD, 
think this thought over:

Consider not asking (AGAIN) for what you want/need.
Change the paradigm to asking, then thinking about

"What do YOU want from me, GOD?"

It's quite soothing to make the switch. 
And very, very enlightening.

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Tuesday, March 24, 2015

Dead Man's Crawl - to a Better Life


4 Nisan, 5775

I often wonder how to share messages that speak to my male readers. Being a woman, I tend to go for content that females readily understand. That's not fair. It also misses the point  of my communication efforts: Inspiring the wider world to pass its limitations, to reach for excellence when facing problems anything, let alone illness.

This video portrays a message I want to share. It's packed with life lessons that all people can grow from.

That kid did the Dead Man's Crawl to a better life.

Coping with illness requires a quality common to any challenge: Pushing past your fears, anger, physical and intellectual strengths. If necessary, put your challenge into the perspective of a game, then face it with your increasingly better character.

Grow your soul. It's there inside you, waiting to flex its muscles to the max.

You'll appreciate yourself more when you do that. And some people will admire you.

I thank my real life and facebook friend Asher Blachman for bringing the video to my attention.

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Monday, March 23, 2015

Lessons to be Learned from the Fire


3 Nisan, 5775

My present thoughts about the horrific loss of life in the fire that decimated the Sasson family are focused on perspective.

My dear friend David Morris, head of the charitable organization Lemaan Achai, expressed some excellent perspective on his blog, today. Please join me in reading and re-reading The Brooklyn Tragedy - Are there Lessons to be Learned?

The spiritual dimensions of the disaster are not something we can easily comprehend. This is a time of grief.

Please hold back from the temptation to lecture anyone, to impugn or to insult anybody. Adding pain to aching hearts is not going to improve anyone's life. 

Causing fresh pain does not solve problems.

Sometimes, life is not about asking GOD for what we want. We can instead ask GOD "What do YOU want from me?" 

Before that can happen, we need to be quiet, to let our hearts and minds adjust a bit to unspeakable pain. 

Each person adjusts at their own rate of speed. 

This is not a time for making demands of anyone.

And if you need help to know how to discuss what happened with young children, listen to this broadcast by Chai Lifeline's Trauma and Crisis Intervention Department.

Listen in on these fire safety lessons:


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Saturday, March 21, 2015

Haveil Havalim Blog Carnival Round-up - Parshat Vayikra edition.


2 Nisan, 5775

Woohoo, it's NISAN - the month of spiritual redemption. Hat tip: GOD!

And now, a word from the other sponsor of this blog:
Havel Havelim, the long running, weekly international Jewish blog carnival that has been appearing well over a decade. It was begun by Soccer Dad who no longer blogs. He coordinated it for quite a while. Now we use our facebook page to coordinate and publicize it. 
Next week's Havel Havelim will be hosted by Batya Medad of Shilo Musings. You can send in your links to with "HH" as subject and a short "blurb" about the post with a one-line description of your post and HH as "subject." Our weekly deadline is before Shabbat "your time." 
          You're also invited to send posts from other bloggers, not just yours. Thanks.

So, how'd you enjoy the clean-up this past week or so, allergic readers? I hope that you're breathing easily with all those non-allergenic household tips I shared with you. PS - please let me know how The Bathtub Trick works out for your oven racks.

How are your hands? Nails OK? Sure was a nail-biter of an election day this past Tuesday. 

Even GOOGLE Doodled about it.

V15 and other underhanded stuff sure Backfired.

While we're on the topic, can SOMEBODY please 
convince the powersthatwannabe 
to allow innovative Israelis to create 
user-friendly ELECTRONIC voting devices,
and to permit voters to USE them? 
The Start-up Nation has a few minuses in the
"Achievements" column.

As for the robo-calls, grrr...

False promises? Arrrghhh!!!!!

(translation of mocked-up Israeli voting ballots
for outtatowners: "The truth is, all politicians are liars.")

Sad to say, the Start-Up Nation
still votes by putting paper ballots
into paper envelopes that go into
cardboard ballot boxes.
Some malcontents use them for ashtrays
so they can influence the outcomes.

No matter how some people voted, 
they probably did not get 
all the results they wanted.

YACHAD had no chance against ballot thieves.

Lose with truth and right rather than gain with falsehood and wrong. 
— Maimonides

Let's laugh along with Karmieler

The Chazon Ish in the 1950's gave 
a strong speech about how it was 
a mitzvah to vote in the upcoming 

One of his students approached him 
after the speech and asked his Rebbe 
if the Rav felt that it was truly 
a mitzvah. 

When the Chazon Ish affirmed his decision, 
the student asked if this was a mitzvah 
just like eating Matza? 

The Chazon Ish responded "No, it is 

a mitzvah like eating Maror! 

Let's get spiritual...

Rabbi Pinchas Winston cites the HUGE importance of an apparently tiny letter in Perceptions: Vayikra.

Rabbi Natan Slifkin has some Physics or Metaphysics? thoughts to share after we finish rubbing our eyes from the TOTAL ECLIPSE of the SUN.

Hmmm, I just realized that I'm friends with each of those men. We've been acquainted for years and years. I wonder what that can do for my IQ?


Calvin and Hobbes' sentiment above is my idea of a perfect intro for Tzivia MacLeod's contributions to this HH festival:

This… is how you should welcome olim.

How will you be greeted when you finally arrive here in Israel?  Or, if you’re already here, how were you greeted?  Was it a depressing, bewildering, lonely aliyah story (I’ve heard my share of those) or an upbeat, thrilled, amazing aliyah story?

REVIEW: Hebrew through story with author Leah Broderson

I’ve found a Hebrew reading “coach” who is tough without being impossibly demanding.

What do otters have to do with Pesach? (aka Passover)

After trying to find an animal that was cute but not cloyingly so, I came across this adorable otter.  And thus, Otter Passover was born.

HH regular Batya Medad has BUNCHES of stuff for us to read (don't hold back, Batya. Share your thoughts with us from now on. It's OK, we're friends!):

Now we can share the thoughts of other writers.

(wow, lotta content this time around... only a few more entries to go...)

My friend Miriam Green fills her rice pudding with love. Read this delicious Lost Kitchen blogpost and learn about Alzheimer's Disease, family and utter decency.

Jacob Richman puts us on alert with his PassoverEducational Resources and 348 Passover Videos (I'm not gonna count them, but you may if you wish. I trust Jacob).

Back to me, your HH hostess of the hour: 
Here's my plug for paying work. One look at my LinkedIn profile clues you in to my diverse writing skills. Best of all, I tend to beat the boss' deadlines. Yes, I tend to hand in my fact-checked work ahead of schedule so everybody can breathe more easily. No need for errata on my watch. I deal with reality and make it understandable.

Lego Pesach commercial (getchergiggleon!) HERE.

Didja check if the kids hid their 
or popcorn 
in the air conditioner yet?

Here Comes Pesach Blues here!

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Thursday, March 19, 2015

How to Wash Your Windows the Non-Allergenic Way


28 Adar, 5775

Whew! I've trimmed overgrowth in the garden, pulled weeds (those 5 weeks away from home were evidently good for them!) and house-broken a friend's puppy this week. Yes, paper-training can be fun when you are consistent with it.

That gave me energy to wash the sliding glass doors and windows today. Now I'm enjoying gorgeous sunshine indoors, instead of looking at several week's worth of dirt when I look outside.

Here's the non-allergenic low-down on how to wash windows painlessly:


Grab a broom, that clampy sponja stick I described the other day, some fresh smartut cloths (torn towels will do) and a container of soapy water (I use dish soap). If you use a sponge-mop instead of the sponja stuff, that's fine. Set them near the sliding glass doors. I'm going to teach you how to wash windows the way you wash floors: Within easy reach.

Put on a disposable face mask and disposable gloves
that you can buy from local grocers or pharmacies.

Slide the glass doors together, exposing the screen. Be sure that the wind is blowing AWAY from the house before you do the next thing: Sweep the screen gently from top to bottom and side-to-side. 

You'll see billows of dirty dust (with teensy tinsy dust mites too small to see) flying away. Your mask will protect your mouth and nose from inhaling the sneezy wheezy mess.

Now clamp your fabric to the sponja stick or grab your sponge-top floor mop. Soak them with the soapy water, then wipe the glass top down and side-to-side. Scrub stubborn spots as necessary. If metal grates are in the way, insert your cleaning tool between the bars, then wash the glass with a limited range of motion. Move on to to other spaces until the job is done.

Rinse the fabrics or toss them aside. Squeeze out the sponge if that's what you're using.

Rest a bit. When you're feeling ready, soak fresh fabric or the sponge mop in clear water, then rinse off the soapy residue.

Voila, the sunshine and fresh air will dry the outside of the windows for you.


You can do the same thing indoors, but be very careful not to splash water or soap. How? Skip the buckets. I recommend saving two spray bottles from some household product - or buy them. 

Fill one bottle with soapy water. Fill the other with plain water and use them sensibly to clean, then to rinse the glass.

  • The trick is that the long sponja or sponge-mop sticks allow you to reach high and far areas of glass surfaces. 

  • The controlled amount of water and soap prevent excessive drips and a need to repeat what you've already done. 

  • The face mask plus gloves prevent sneezing from dust, and they protect your skin from the soapy water.

I hope that you'll let me know if my non-allergenic house-cleaning hints helped you or someone you know.

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